Last year was eventful. I started a new job, Terry and I celebrated 1 year of marriage, I returned to school full time, Terry unexpectedly lost his mother and my first-born son got married. Those are just some the events that happened from January-July. I had a hard time remembering what year it was because everything was happening so fast. I kind of lost track of time. I remember some of the moments of 2018, but the year seems like a blur. With all the events from 2018 that occurred, one of the happiest moments was Davion’s wedding! In the past, I prayed for that day. I had prayed for Davion’s wife and from the day that I knew I was carrying life, I prayed for Davion. I won’t go into detail in this post about how wonderful of a son Davion is.
He was a sophomore in college when I began to fervently pray about Davion’s love life and the woman who would be his wife. My single moms small group at church had just finished studying “Fervent”, a book on prayer by Priscilla Shirer. Whenever I asked Davion why he wasn’t dating, he said that girls didn’t like him because he was “too nice.” So, this mama started fervently praying for Davion’s love life. One of my mentors taught me years ago to pray that my son would find a woman who would be “bone of his bone, flesh of his flesh” which is a reference to Genesis 2:23-24. I also prayed for a woman who would honor Davion and appreciate who he is.
The church’s single moms small group decided to host a prayer breakfast as culmination on our study about prayer strategies. We planned it for the weekend of Mother’s Day 2016 and invited other single moms to attend. It was a beautiful event. We had a professional photographer donate family photos to the moms, prepared a delicious brunch for the moms and had wonderful gifts for everyone. It was beautiful! I told my kids the only thing I wanted for Mother’s Day that year was for them to help me with the event. Davion came down from Jacksonville that weekend to help with childcare. He first laid eyes on the woman would eventually be his wife as she was dropping her son off for childcare so that she could attend the single mom’s prayer breakfast. She was a beautiful young woman and a great mom with a (very) charming little boy, Keylan. Davion and Keylan bonded in the nursery during the prayer breakfast while I prayed for a wife for Davion and Keylan’s mom prayed for a husband. He learned her name as she was picking Keylan up from childcare: Faith. Her name was Faith! Davion was smitten and intrigued.
It was very enlightening to watch Davion fall in love with Faith. Honestly, watching Davion pursue Faith taught me a great deal about relationships. Through observing him, I learned that when a man wants a woman, she doesn’t have to wonder about his interest. I watched Davion plan out dates and work out babysitting arrangements. I babysat Keylan for their first date. I was very happy that he and Faith were dating: 1) because I had prayed for a woman just like Faith; 2) Faith lived in Daytona and went to the same church as me and 3) Davion came home more often and went to church 😊. I continued to watch him grow in love for her and Keylan. I met Faith’s mother, Iana at Faith’s graduation from cosmetology school. We exchanged numbers that night without our kids knowing and began to pray weekly for Davion and Faith’s relationship. Seven months later, Davion proposed to Faith.
Terry was very supportive throughout everything. The couple decided on a dessert reception. I volunteered Terry and I to provide a candy bar for the reception (I’m still learning to not offer us to do things without talking to Terry first). I started obsessing about the candy. Terry helped me to figure out my vision and ordered the items. He was there to help set up the church and there to help tear it all down. He even ironed handkerchiefs for Iana and I in anticipation of our tears.
Davion and Faith became husband and wife on July 14, 2018. The ceremony was beautiful. I remember sitting in the rehearsal thinking, “I don’t think I’m going to make it through the ceremony without crying.” A part of Davion’s vows were to Keylan as he promised to be his dad and honor his vows to Faith. Davion and Faith asked me, Iana, and their premarital counselor Dina to pray over them during apart of their ceremony. I rehearsed some things that I wanted to pray over them. Some of the things that Iana and I had prayed over them weekly as we continued to pray after the kids were engaged, I wanted to repeat in my prayer over them in public. I didn’t want to get up there and be incoherent, but that’s exactly what happened. I started the prayer with “Thank You! Thank you, God, for this day, for this opportunity to come before you….” I tried to say other things, but my eyes welled up with tears, my voice began to shake and my heart took over. All I could say was “Thank You. Thank you, God for allowing me to see this day. To see my prayers over my son being manifested in his life. Thank you for choosing me to be his mom and strengthening me to raise him. Thank You, God for the people You placed in my life to help me raise him. Thank you for this wonderful woman Davion was marrying and this precious little boy he loved.” All I could say was thank you. July 14, 2018, my first born became a husband and a father. Terry and I became grandparents and “in-loves”. After that I kinda lost track of time.
The Big Day – Team M2
Terry’s Thoughts (T2):
The period after my mother passed was a mixture of thanksgiving, fatigue and sadness as I had to take care of my mother’s affair. Yet, there was something that was coming that forced me to change my mindset and my attitude: the wedding of Davion and Faith. One of the best things about being in a blended family (at least for me) is the fact that some things that people have to wait decades to experience happens in a matter of weeks or months for me. In less than 3 months, I was going to have a daughter-in-law and a grandson.
Davion and Faith had been dating prior to me marrying Faith. They both played an integral part in our wedding ceremony and they caught the garter and bouquet (yes, it was a setup, I admit it). These two seemed destined to be together, yet it was a surprise that a few months after Faith and I got married that they announced that they were getting married in 2018. In my time around these two, I recognized that they not only loved each other and appreciated each other’s company, but knew that despite the differences in their backgrounds, they were going to allow God to be the head of their lives.
As the months to the wedding came closer and closer to occurring, I had to focus on one person: my wife, Faith. Davion is her first born and her first son. As the first born and first son of my parents, I understand the expectations from some people, but especially my mother. The great thing about Faith and FM2 (this is the nickname that I have for Davion’s bride to differentiate the two when they are in the same room) is that they had and have a great relationship. Yet, this was her first-born and there was something that Faith needed to do to ensure that this marriage would last: Pray. Faith is and always has been a prayer warrior and she enlisted FM2 mom, Iana, as an ally early on in their children’s relationship. These two would send up “timber” weekly concerning their children and their relationship. From the time that they got serious in their dating, through the announcement of their engagement to the impending wedding, these two prayer warriors set faith in motion to ensure that their children would start and continue down the correct path.
As the wedding date got closer and closer, Faith became more and more “Momma Bear” and I needed to make sure that “Momma Bear” didn’t rip anyone’s head off if they tried to upset the wedding. Although there were no major problems that could not be taken care of, I made it my mission to make sure that both momma bears did not rip anyone’s head off their body for making any move that threatened the success of the union. I knew that I would need to run interference for Davion, FM2 and both moms, so I took half the week off from work so that I could be available. Looking back, I laugh at the things that were said between the two when things would try to come up and my response would always be the same “what do I need to do to make it better.”
The day of the wedding, I was running around playing chauffeur, gopher, designer, roadie, point-man and whatever I needed to be to keep people from being incinerated by laser beam eyes due to people not doing what was asked of them. For me, it was a labor of love that these two were putting their trust and faith in God that they have heard from Him on who would be the person that they would share the rest of their lives with. Having spent half of my life in marital bliss, I understood the importance of knowing that the person that God placed in your life would be there for you for better or worse can have on your heart, mind and spirit. I wanted to do what I could do in the natural what the two mothers have done in the spirit realm through their prayer: help get these two complete their journey to becoming one.
During the ceremony, they had several things that were unlike anything that I had ever seen before. They requested that certain people (especially the two mothers) pray for them, their marriage and have certain people come and lay hands on them during the prayer. As always, the protector in me came out and I placed myself strategically near Davion and laid hands on him and prayed within myself that he would have the strength to be the husband and father that God has called him to be. While I was praying this on the inside, Faith was praying for them like she had never prayed before. The love for her first born and his bride and the success of marriage came out in a prayer unlike I have ever heard before. Of all the timber that had been sent up before the wedding could not match the amount of timber that was sent up a that moment. If a foundation for their successful marriage was laid that day, that prayer was a significant portion of it.
When the vows had been exchanged and the pronouncement of their union made, I was HAPPY! Happy for the new couple, happy for the mothers, happy for the families and happy that no one had to be taken out because they acted stupid (you know there’s always one). My thoughts turned to the events that I just witnessed and experienced and memories of my own wedding a little over 15 months earlier. I was happy that I was able to play a part in ensuring that the couple had a great start to the rest of their lives together and could be a witness of their union before God and man. Most of all, I was happy because I went from being Mr. Terry to G-Pop to my newly minted grandson!